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Built for Busy Lives, Not Therapy Sessions

This 12-week course is designed for real military and responder relationships. Learn how to reconnect, rebuild trust, and repair emotional wounds through short, powerful lessons you can take on your own time, at your own pace.

A Course for Military and First Responder Couples: Fixing the Shit No One Talks About

  1. Module 1: Understanding the Disconnect

    8 lessons
    1. Welcome
    2. Course Disclaimer

    1. The Invisible Weight We Carry

      1. Lesson 1: The Invisible Weight We Carry

    2. What Attachment Has to Do With It

      1. Lesson 2: What Attachment Has to Do With It
      2. Meet Your Reactive Self Meditation
      3. Attachment Style Types
      4. Cycle of Disconnection Handout
      5. Behaviors in the cycle handout

  2. Module 2: Breaking the Cycle

    2 lessons

    1. How Conflict Hurts The bond

      1. Lesson 3: How Conflict Hurts the Bond and How to Stop It

    2. Triggers and Building Emotional Safety

      1. Lesson 4: Triggers and Building Emotional Safety

  3. Module 3: How to Get Your Needs Met

    3 lessons

    1. Needs and Boundaries

      1. Lesson 5: Needs and Boundaries

    2. How to Ask Without A Blowup

      1. Lesson 6: How to Ask Without A Blowup
      2. Grounding Meditation

  4. Module 4: The Root Cause of Conflict

    4 lessons

    1. Defensiveness

      1. Lesson 7: Defensiveness

    2. The Hard Shit No One Talks About

      1. Lesson 8: Addiction, Violence, Suicidal Threats & Betrayal

    3. Trauma and Childhood Wounds

      1. Lesson 9: Trauma and Childhood Wounds
      2. Inner Child Meditation

  5. Module 5: Repair & Connect

    4 lessons

    1. How to Repair After Conflict

      1. Lesson 10: How to Repair After Conflict
      2. Repair Tool TEMP

    2. Replacing the Old Cycle

      1. Lesson 11: Replacing The Old Cycle
      2. Cycle of Connection Handout

  6. Module 6: Moving Forward Together

    2 lessons

    1. Consciously Creating Connection

      1. Lesson 12: Consciously Creating Connection
      2. Reflection + Next Steps

No BS Fluff - Built by a Fellow Veteran

Created by a military veteran and couples therapist, this course speaks your language and gets your world. This straightforward approach is designed to get you results without therapy or labels.

Repair at the Root

Using Emotionally Focused and attachment-based tools, you'll learn how old trauma shows up in your relationship and step-by-step instructions on how to fix it. We'll connect to the root-cause of your conflict and replace your repeating cycle.

Partner Included

Your partner will get their very own access to the course included with your purchase.